Relationships are Great, and They are Amazing

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Relationships are great, and they are amazing. Everything seems better. Colors are more vibrant tastes are more delectable. Pairing up in a relationship team beats going solo any day of the week. But does wanting a relationship make you desperate?

Yes, it’s true; guys are more healthy in relationships than women. I’m talking about longevity. Guys may push hard against commitment, but we do want it…unless we’re scared mommy’s boys, and in that case, you don’t want us.

The short answer is no. You are not desperate if you want a relationship. Wanting something does not make you desperate for it. Wanting is seeking satisfaction. That’s human. Humans, people, we’re meant to be together. We’re not told to mate, then run into the jungle and find another partner. We date to mate. Some stupid internet people decided it would be good to try and teach men to abuse women to get a bedpost notch. What good is that? What’s your goal? Amazing sex or scoring a touchdown?

Desperation implies that you cannot live without the thing that you want. You are strong. You can go on even if you don’t get what you desire. That is not true if you want a relationship. It makes you strong that you can wait for a correct healthy relationship. Your desires may not fit your desired life, but you’ll receive them. Chill, it will happen. Please don’t force it. Do you like when your hand is forced?

You can live without a relationship and be perfectly happy, although most people are more comfortable when they are in one. A relationship does not define who you are as a person, so don’t let anyone tell you that wanting discredits yous! This makes you human. Yes, being human isn’t always fun or easy, despite all our romantic fantasies.

If society has led us to believe that wanting a relationship is desperate, then so be it. I went ahead and proved them wrong by being in one! You don’t need anyone’s approval to be happy in a relationship. All you need is someone who loves and accepts you for who you are — connection or not.

I know there is a current trend. Women have given up on men. Ladies, decent guys still exist. Gentlemen, extraordinary ladies are still there. Please drop this PUA crap. You’re hurting women, and you’re hurting yourself.

So go out there and put yourself out there. Don’t be afraid to show the world that you want a relationship! Who knows, maybe the right person will come along and sweep you off your feet. :)”



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Andrew Foster

Andrew Foster


A student of love, relationships and self help who likes to write about and teach what I’ve learned along the way